The other day, I had a long phone conversation with a good friend of mine. As I listened to her cry, I realized that it’s so hard to be enough in a not enough world. She was talking to me about how she feels so depressed when she scrolls through her Instagram feed.
We all find ourselves perusing the social media channels that are so available at the palm of our hands. We all get that feeling of not being happy when we see other people living their best lives. The one thing we don’t realize is the fact that most people only share their highs and leave out their lows.
Comparison is a horrible thing and social media doesn’t help. For the record, I happen to adore following my friends on Instagram and keeping up with my family on Facebook. It can be a wonderful thing. However, it also beckons you and me to secret places of feeling bad about who we are and what we are doing in life.
What do you do when you don’t feel good enough because comparison is knocking at your door? Here are four tips you can try:
• Gain Perspective: Remind yourself that you’re enough, you’re unique, and that you’re in a different stage in life than that person who has traveled the world, won awards, and fulfilled their goals. Everyone’s accomplishments happen at the right stage in their lives. If you want something, go get it! Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on yourself.
• Alter that Mindset: When an unwanted thought pops into your head, immediately try to smack that ugly down! Start taking into consideration all of the things you love about yourself. Appreciate yourself and if something about yourself bothers you: try to fix it instead of creating a bubble of low self-confidence that looms over your head every time you are on Instagram or Facebook. Keep a list of things you are grateful for, things you need to work on, and what makes you happy.
• Celebrate Success: A great way to combat comparison is to honour other people. Celebrate the wins of friends and family and encourage them to pursue their dreams. We are all in this together and if we don’t have each other’s backs, who will? Someone else’s win isn’t a loss for you; this world is big enough for us all to dream, to be, and to succeed!
• Switch off! Make sure you have some down time without social media. As much as I’m so grateful for doing this as a job, like any job I need to take a break from it. You can’t be working 24-7. When you feel anxious about it, just switch off and get out of the house without your phone. Trust me, it helps!
Enjoy your own journey, stop focusing on other people’s lives and what they are doing. Social media started as a way to connect with people and stay in touch with them, however, over the years, it has become a way of life, in a sense that, most people rely on their likes and engagement in order to feel wanted and appreciated. Don’t rely on social media for your real happiness. Real happiness is being confident with who you are and being able to scroll through Facebook or Instagram and feel happy for other people’s accomplishments without feeling low about yourself. Start looking at how far you’ve come, and believe that you are enough in a world of social media.
I hope this post helped you, Yvonne K. xo